Last Christmas, we marveled at the sparkle on Gabrielle Union’s left ring finger. We could only imagine the high retail price. But in reality, the actual cost of that ring was greater than any dollar amount in a jewelry store. Most of us gushed over the Christmas proposal, or the really cute flexgram with the whole family that streamed down our time lines on Instagram on Christmas Day. All seemed well in Love and Basketball, but just a few days later the True-Hollywood story emerged that her fiancé Dwyane Wade, had fathered a child with another woman!
Was this what prompted the sudden proposal? Was it all to cover up a more bitter truth? Can love really weather this sort of storm? Or, is this just by chance, karma coming back to haunt the woman who seemed to have it all?
What’s funny is that as soon as the story broke, gossip articles with titles like, Dwyane Wade fathered third baby but not with Gabrielle Union-( New York Daily News 12/30/13) or TMZ’s EVIDENCE THEY WERE NOT ON BREAK When baby Was Conceived (1/6/14). But the title that takes the cake for now is Glamour’s recent feature of Union giving Relationship Do’s and Don’ts, personal advice for women to consider.
The interesting thing about this salacious story is that there are four sides to it, but which is the truth?
1) Dwayne Wade, the professional basketball player for the Miami Heat who is a wonderful single father to two boys from a previous marriage, the author of A Father First: How My Life Became Bigger Than Basketball. Was he wrong for being a “man on break?”
2) What about the mother to the newest Wade child, Aja Metoyer? She is already the mother of two daughters from a previous celebrity relationship. Child number three isn’t going to really change her lifestyle too much now, especially given the net worth of Wade. Was she wrong for that moment of pleasure with a newly available man?
3) Or the talented, graceful Gabrielle Union, star of Being Mary Jane on BET, who was previously married but has never bore children of her own. Could the fact that she wanted a career, and the time constraints around those goals, became too much for a long distance celebrity relationship?
4) Moreover, could the truth be the fact that none of us were in the room when the situation occured, nor do we know them personally. So, is it really any of our business?! Well, what I do know is that Wade is a man with money and power, and that if given the opportunity, would it have been easy for any available woman to be in Union’s position?
You may be surprised by my response, but each party is equally at fault. For years we have known of Wade and Union’s courtship. We have never heard of a public breakup. So any woman that allowed herself to get caught up in this mess was in it for personal gain. Union stated in the Glamour article, “Over the summer, I reassessed priorities. I’d always wanted an awesome career with back-to-back projects, but I realized I wasn’t willing to sacrifice my relationship for it,” which makes sense. However, we all have self-control, no matter how much I work, sacrifice, travel, when you know me, you know my goals, and who I aspire to be. When the opportunity comes for me to achieve these goals, I naturally expect my mate to stand by me. But hey, who am I? Just the Date Whisperer!