Exes are a constant topic of discussion. No matter how the conversation is going someone is talking about their ex. Who they were, how the relationship went, how it ended, what their currently doing. One thing some people may not know is that having a relationship with your ex depends on a few factors.
The first is what type of person they are. You have the “sideways” ones. They won’t leave you alone and continue to stock you on social media. They believe if they continue this behavior that one day you guys will get back together. You have the cocky ones, they pretend they left you, downgrade you, and make it seem as though you are the absolute reason for the break up. They even fake like they are doing so much better without you (even though they are miserable). Last but not least you have the exceptions. I call them the exceptions because there are very few of them. They are the ones who accepted the relationship for what it was and how it ended. They are the ones who you respect for the time shared and lessons learned.
This takes me to the second factor, how did the relationship end? This is the most important factor. If your relationship ended based on mutual respect for each other, agreeing to disagree and understanding what’s best – then there is a good chance you can be friends with this ex. Sometimes two people connect and they try out the relationship aspect and it’s not meant to happen. Sometimes it’s just for a season. Being friends would not be a challenge as long as feelings are not there. You don’t want to set yourself up for failure. If no romantic feelings are there then go for a friendship. In the other hand if your relationship ended on an unhappy note being friends may not be in your near future. If your relationship ended with yelling crying and feelings of hatred then either you still have feelings for this person or they are not a good person to be around. Either way a friendship is not in either one of yours best interest. Being friends with an ex solely relays on the fact of who you are as individuals and where you are in life. For some people this works, others it doesn’t. At the end of the day only you know the answer to that question. Only you know what works for you and how it works.
Then you must ask yourself, why do you want to be friends with your ex? Honestly, why? Are they such a great person with awesome characteristics? In some cases people can be great friends and they have awesome qualities, but they aren’t cutout to be in a relationship. Relationships aren’t for everyone and sometimes it takes trial and error to realize that. Or do you still have feelings for this person? You may secretly still have feelings for them. You want to be so close to this person that you resort to being friends just to keep in contact with them. You think, ok I still want this person in my life in some way so I’ll take a friendship over nothing, not realizing that’s even harder because you will want to get back with them. Being friends with an ex can come with a lot of territory but if you’re up for the challenge go for it!