Depression hits hard and can be quite exhausting. I know you’re probably thinking how can being sad and depressed be tiring? Well it is, very much so, because you’re using most of your energy to get through the day and be happy or you are trying to stay above the depression sinking line and not even faking being happy, but just surviving the sad. Sometimes it’s easier to just stay in bed. You don’t have to deal with anyone which means you don’t have to address any feelings other than what your feeling at the moment. And that’s safe. But that safety of staying in bed and not getting out can be false and almost more dangerous then dealing with the actual issue. Depression is a mental illness and mental illnesses sometimes show physical symptoms. So when dealing with a person suffering from depression, you have to figure out is this depression emotional, mental pain or is it a physical pain that can be eased with medication and a boost of family support.
If you are suffering from depression and just not wanting to deal, trust me I understand. Once I spent a week in bed only getting up rarely to eat and that was after prompting. But it’s not healthy physically and mentally. It can actually make your depression worse. I know the bed or your room may seem like a safe place when the world around you seems so full of joy and you can barely muster a true smile but the longer you stay isolated the worse it will be. Try small steps to help you get out. Maybe not out of the house at first, but just out of bed and then out of your room. Maybe thirty minutes to an hour in the living room or dining room of your home, or a nice warm shower or bath just to relax. From there move to maybe a small trip outside or inviting a close trusted friend or family member over for lunch. I know its hard. But small steps to break the cycle of depression and isolation are the best way to start feeling better. Along with these tips maybe a phone call or a trip to your doctor once you get through some of these tiny steps would be a good move in the right direction to healthy.
If your loved ones depression has hit this point or you are noticing that they aren’t that active or want to get out of bed it’s best for you to be patient. It is hard, you want them to just get better and be happy, and you know they want this too, but snapping out of it is not gonna happen. It takes time and support, so love and patience is key. Try small steps for their care, like making sure your loved one is eating because nutrition is important. And slowly try to help them get out of the bed and maybe watch a movie on the couch for a bit or have a goof meal in the family room. Be their reason for getting out of bed. And if you feel it’s getting worse before getting better try and get them the help they need so that they don’t a: become malnourished or b: let their depression come to a point where they become suicidal or in dire need of hospitalization.
Depression is hard, and it’s hard to try and push through it. For those suffering don’t forget there is help out there and people who want to help you help yourself so that you can feel better. Don’t be afraid to ask. And for those caring for someone with depression or any mental illness, there are support groups for those who are supporting those with depression and mental illness. So you don’t be afraid to ask either. If it’s through your doctor, church, or a nationally recognized mental health organization, help is out there.