It seems to be that one of the biggest issues in relationships today is social media. Whether it’s Twitter or Instagram, it seems to be one of the reasons that some relationships are failing…or not even starting. Why are we letting social media ruin our relationships? No website should be coming between you and your significant other. None.
I believe that Twitter is one of the biggest problems in relationships. The problem with this is that no website should be that important to come between you and your partner. However, doing things to provoke your partner on social media is a cause for a disagreement. A simple tweet or retweet can cause your S/O to get upset with you or question your integrity. Tweets can be seen as indirect messages toward your partner or hints at issues you may have with your partner. Questionable song lyrics or quotes can cause your partner to question if something was directed at them. First things first, Twitter is not the place to air your relationship problems. Other people do not need to know when your home is not happy. If you and your partner have a fight, turning to the internet is not going to help or resolve the issue in any way. Talk the issues out with your partner, not Twitter. Fighting about social media is petty and immature, but there are some things that would cause strife in a relationship.
Instagram is another social media site that seems to cause issues in relationships. Couples sometimes argue about ‘liking’ someone else’s picture or commenting. Maybe the person whose picture your S/O liked is a person of their past, or maybe that person is interested in your partner and you don’t feel comfortable with them following that person. However, most times, an Instagram ‘like’ is just that – an Instagram ‘like’. Liking an Instagram picture does not mean you actually like the person. The person may be a friend or you may think it is a nice picture or a cute caption. Sometimes in a relationship, your partner may not be fond of you following certain people, or liking certain things. Though it may seem unimportant and silly to you, it is important to your partner and for the sake of your relationship, it may be good for you not to do it. On the flip side, this is where trust comes in. You and your partner have to trust each other and realize that you guys are bigger than the little things – and social media is definitely a little thing.
Social media is not worth losing your relationship over. A relationship should be strong enough that other people on social media should not affect your relationship. If you really have a problem with your partner’s social media habits, bring it up with your partner, but before you pick a fight, stop and think if it is an issue that is really important and worth potentially starting a fight over. It is understandable that there are certain things that are disrespectful, like letting Twitter know when you are arguing, but take the time to decide if the act was something that would really make you question your partner. Remember social media is little compared to your relationship; too little to let it cause big issues.
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