A little over a month ago in celebrity couple hood, actress Naya Rivera married her longtime best friend, actor Ryan Dorsey. This may not sound like a big deal, but when we think about the fact that Naya Rivera very recently called off her engagement to rapper Big Sean and still got married on the date that was set for her and Big Sean, it has to make you wonder a little bit. Interesting, right? That’s an understatement.
Naya Rivera and Big Sean were dating for about six months before they got engaged. The couple seemed to be moving the fast track to the aisle, but that quickly came to an end six months later when the former couple called off their engagement. Many were shocked, but not as shocked when fans discovered she was married just a few months later, and not to Big Sean. Many did not even know she was dating again. With her abrupt engagement and wedding just three months after her breakup with Big Sean, it makes me wonder, how soon is too soon?
I understand that at the end of a relationship, you wonder what else is out there for you. However, after a breakup, it is a good time for you to reflect, and take some time for yourself. That time is good for reflecting, and improving. Alone time is needed for everyone, especially at a time like that. With Naya Rivera moving on so quickly, it makes me wonder if she had something going on during her relationship with Big Sean. Though Big Sean is now dating singer Ariana Grande, they do not seem to be moving towards marriage. Granted, we do not know what exactly happened with Naya and Ryan, but it seems a little strange that not even a full four months after her called off engagement, she was married to someone else. Though that person was her best friend, it is still an awfully quick time to marry someone, especially after a failed engagement.
I suppose what I am trying to understand in this situation is the rush to a new relationship, let alone to a marriage. I understand that after a relationship both parties will move on sooner or later. But what is considered too soon? Moving on too soon can be deciphered as you just rebounding. Moving on too long after could be seen as you holding onto a failed relationship. Both sides are tricky, but I do think that everyone should wait a little while before jumping back into a serious relationship. It is a good time to reevaluate the last relationship. I also think that moving on too quickly could cause problems in the new relationship because nine times out of ten, you are not over the relationship. You could easily bring the baggage and problems from the prior relationship into the new one. I think that the biggest thing that people have a hard time understanding is that it is okay to be alone. You do not have to jump from relationship to relationship. Everyone needs time to heal after a breakup, and jumping into a very serious relationship right away is not the way to heal. That only covers up the hurt, not makes it disappear. Now, we do not know the whole story of Naya Rivera and Big Sean’s breakup, nor the whole story of her and her new husband. However, from the outside looking in, it seems rushed. We can only wish Naya and Ryan the best. Remember, it is okay to be alone, and sometimes, soon is just way too soon.
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