These past few months, everyone has seen the drama unfold with former Baltimore Ravens player, Ray Rice, and his wife Janay Rice. I could not help but wonder what in the world was going through her head as she defended Ray Rice on Instagram after their very violent domestic dispute on an elevator a few months back in Atlantic City, N.J. Back in February, both Ray and Janay were arrested on assault charges in Atlantic City, and a few days later a video was released of Ray Rice dragging then fiancé Janay out of an elevator where she was unconscious. Ray was charged with aggravated assault and the charges against Janay were dropped. Despite the evident domestic violence, the two were still married the day after Ray’s trial. The footage of him knocking Janay out was leaked to the public a couple of weeks ago, and everyone including myself went crazy wondering why in the world she still went through with the marriage.
The video shows the couple getting on an elevator, clearly arguing with each other. Janay spits on him and he responds by punching her in the face knocking her out. After he punches her, the way he stands there looking at her shows that this was not the first time he has done this. He shows no remorse, and gives no “what have I done?” reaction, which is what I think was even more shocking than him punching her. He dragged her out and was kicking her while she was on the ground still unconscious. How she could marry him after he not only knocked her unconscious, but also publicly embarrassed her is a question that we will never know the answer to.
Janay Rice took to Instagram after Rice was released from the Baltimore Ravens and suspended indefinitely from the NFL defending her husband, apologizing for the part she played in it, and saying that what happened to him was not fair. I have never been in this type of situation, and usually I attempt to see the opposing view of situations, but this is one that I could just never understand. What makes you stay with someone who does that to you? What makes you defend that person? This was clearly not the first time this has happened. I see nothing that justifies the want to stay with someone who can hurt you like that. Even if this was the first time, which I have a hard time believing, that still does not make it okay in any aspect. It really breaks my heart when I see a woman settle for someone that she does not deserve. As women, we have to want the best for ourselves. It sounds so cliché, but it is the absolute truth. It starts with self-love and recognizing our worth. We are treasures!
Why would you ever want to be with a man that does not treat you that way? Janay Rice is just one example of many women in situations like these. Unfortunately this happens every day and women stay every day. If you don’t take anything away from this post, take this: no matter what you feel you did wrong or did to provoke your partner, you do not deserve to be hit on. Love yourself enough to know that you deserve nothing but the absolute best love from someone, and being abused by them is not it.
Photo 1 Courtesy of NY Daily News
Photo 2 Courtesy of Bossip