February is known as the month couples in the U.S. profess their love to one another. It’s when the dating woman learns if she been upgraded to the almighty title of girlfriend. And let’s not forget the ever present girlfriend that gets bumped up to the title of fiancée.
But what I rarely hear is the WIFE or HUSBAND acknowledged on this day. Marriage is one of the hardest jobs you will ever embark upon. If you don’t believe me, let me elaborate. Your kids will grow up, you will complete your college degree in four years if you put your mind to it, and oh yes, you will retire from your job. But when you marry, it’s expected to be for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer…and even, till death do you part!
That’s where the ever dreaded word SUBMISSION which means to RESPECT each other, becomes key! Now this is where the play on words come to mind for my O.C.D. readers, the definition of submission is 1: the act of submitting the power to another 2: the condition of being humble or compliant. That right there alone, is a powerful statement that most of us have misinterpreted throughout the years. It means that you understand that for the betterment of each other, that you will agree to disagree. Wives, know when to let your husband LEAD. Husbands, listen to the point of view of your wife.
When a man asks a woman for her hand in marriage it should (I’m not saying that divorce doesn’t happen) be expected, that he and she will now become ONE for life. I was married once, and knew nothing of what I had signed up for. I didn’t respect him nor was I in love with him. However, I married him because I thought that because of my circumstances at the time, it was the right move. Wrong…but the experience taught me a life lesson that marriage is not a game, nor should it be stepped into lightly. Or, done for ill gotten gain.
We talk about communication, love, patience, good jobs, family values…all great things but they don’t mean anything if you don’t RESPECT each other and know when to SUBMIT to your spouse. The sexiest thing to me is to see a man be a man! Lead by example and by right. Ladies, people who have been married for years will tell you, that once your husband knows that he can trust you and that you have each others best interest at heart, your marriage becomes a partnership. You will always have a voice in your marriage because you are a TEAM thus the old adage [winking] “happy wife means happy life.”
That’s why TIME is the most valuable gift you can ever get from a person. In 2014 time means money, time means opportunities missed, time means its unretainable; time means the chance to grow, time means trust, time means I see you are not like all the rest, time means I’m going to learn to love you and lastly… TIME heals all wounds.
I will grow old with my future husband because I have learned the core values of the word we love to hate – submission. For your marriage didn’t make it this far on love alone but on submission and that means RESPECT...often times we all want to be the winner but that’s when the marriage selflessness kicks in, and you yield for the betterment of your spouse; that’s the real definition of SUBMISSION.
This is just my take on the thing that 75% of women and men want to do one day.