It is that time of year again, where we are “Crazy in Love” with Mr. New Year. He seems amazing, all is steady, as he does all the right things. Every time he calls, you feel as though you are on top of the world. In fact, to you, he seems so amazing, he can do no wrong.
STOP…ladies, this is the beginning of the end. I’m going to ask you three major types of questions that I want you to consider everyday. Incorporate these questions into your dating mantra. This will stop the sleepless nights. As well as the constant lamenting over why you can’t keep a man, at the end of every relationship.
Before I share [disclaimer* this advice does not hold true for every man, but for most]. If you don’t believe me, ask them after you read this blog! So here we go:
Question 1: has Mr. New Year told you that you are his new year’s resolution? Yes ma’am, did he tell you that you are his lady and he wants this relationship to work? Or, did he tell you that he wanted to see where everything is headed between the two of you? Then you guys can progress from there and see where it could possibly go. This is were 80% of women lose all their bearings with Mr. New Year. Keep in mind that he is simply DATING you, a thing that women often don’t do because they are afraid of how it will appear.
Yes ladies its okay to DATE period.
Question 2: is Mr. New Year telling you that he would like to date you exclusively, but you don’t think he fits the package that you thought Mr. Right would come in? Tisk tisk…why are you thinking that your husband should be 6’5, rich, handsome, and suave? I hate to be the one to break it to you, but with most of those men, lord knows that every woman wants them. They are not typically willing to settle down for a very long time. Which leads me to this point, gravity will take over you at some point and you won’t be the meanest thing since corn bread for the rest of your life. So sweetie pie, I want you to know that when we are young, guys are like buses, they show up every 15 minutes! When we are in our twenties, men come and go at a steady pace. But when we reach our dirty thirties, meeting a like-minded, well-rounded, God-fearing, hardworking MAN, is not just hard, but rare to find.
Question 3: is Mr. New Year wasting your time? You may be a little puzzled with this one but honestly, is he wasting your time? You know you don’t like him and you know you can’t take him seriously, plus he doesn’t want anything out of LIFE. This is where all those morning Instgram posts become real; “Don’t waste your time on something that you will regret your whole life”. I can tell you from experience we all have stayed in situations because we didn’t think we would ever get, meet, or have better.
The moment that you learn your worth I promise you things will get better, and the men you attract will be wonderful, crafted to the energy that you are putting out. So this year, let’s make sure that Mr. New Year is Mr. Right!
The Date Whisperer