Getting out of a relationship can be tough. Break ups are never fun, truthfully and after you break up with someone, you just want someone else to help get over that person. However, is that really a smart idea? No, it usually isn’t. One of the biggest problems with break ups is never using the time after the relationship ends to be alone. Right out of a relationship, people immediately start the hunt for the next relationship. Why is that appealing? Taking the time to be alone after a failed relationship is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Taking time for you is extremely needed and self-rewarding.
After a relationship ends, you naturally wonder what went wrong and what could have been done different regardless of how the relationship ended. That is completely normal. Then you start to get upset that you are single again and automatically get ready to find another relationship. That is never a good idea for various reasons. Everyone should take time to reflect on the last relationship, and work on themselves. You’ve just spent however long with another person, take some time to spend with yourself. Do the things you like to do, go the places you like to go. In other words, date yourself essentially. Being alone can help you realize things about yourself that you may not have realized before because you spent so much time wrapped up in another person. You may have even lost some of yourself because of the relationship you were in. I understand no one wants to be alone and everyone wants someone for themselves. That’s understandable. However, you have to learn to be happy with yourself and by yourself before you can truly be happy with someone else. Your happiness and satisfaction should not be contingent upon another person. When you spend so much time focusing on finding happiness within a relationship, you lose the happiness that is meant for yourself. Self-love and self-acceptance is so important.
Those who jump from relationship to relationship without any time spent for them are people who have a problem with themselves. This is why self-love and self- acceptance are so important. How can you truly love someone when you don’t love yourself. Being wrapped up in another person can sometimes hide the issues that you truly have with yourself. Spending time alone instead of hopping from one relationship to the next can give you the time you need to work on completely loving and accepting yourself for who you are. When you are secure and confident in yourself, which will prevent someone from taking advantage of you and not treating you the way you should be treated. Make sure you take the time for yourself because I cannot stress how important it is. It is okay not to be in a relationship every second. Relationships are a lot of work, and it is easy to get caught up in them. Sometimes we even stay in the wrong ones longer than we should just because we do not want to be alone. Being alone and learning to love yourself completely is way better than being in a relationship where you lose yourself. Try to remember this the next time you find yourself alone and upset about it. Take the time to date yourself. It may take you a while to understand, but you will be so glad you did.
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