Some older women like dating younger because it makes them feel young.
And being a ‘Cougar‘ seems to be leaning less away from taboo to more mainstream with dating sites and even tv shows highlighting the cougar lifestyle. But what’s the appeal? If your dating someone younger what do you talk about? How young is too young? The list of questions goes on and on. But the trend grows. As most people agree anyone under 18 is deemed to young, but any one over that also happens to be under the age of the potential cougar lover is fair game.
For some reason dating younger appeals because your younger lover does make you feel younger. And it keeps you current but beyond that they are willing to love you despite age. Some older women have claimed and even been seen on tv saying that older men want younger women. The man your age wants to date someone your daughters age and may pass you over. I will say that this is not all men, but it happens, and so older women looking for love look for love with those that want to love and even grow with you. Their young ‘cub’ sees them as they are, first and foremost as a woman deserving of attention and somewhere after that age comes into play. So those that think cougars are all looking for a young fling or a sugar baby of sorts your view may be a little biased. A good number of women on dating sites specifically targeting the cougar market are actually looking for someone to love and settle down with.
The old motto, ‘Go where you are celebrated not tolerated‘ may be best attached to a lady cougar looking to date and one of the reasons why they look for younger men. Even as a younger woman, I literally can’t be mad at them. I mean we all want love. Who am I to throw shade on your love parade? Plus if you got it and you can catch that guys eye, more power to you! No one deserves to be in a relationship and not feel loved or cherished. So for ladies over 30 and dating someone under their age, go for it! Dating is a learning experience and life is too short to miss out on trying an experience. If you find a man who has a good set of qualities that are on your list and you happen to be 45 and he happens to be 30 why not? Compatibility and chemistry is what matters, and age honestly is a number, it doesn’t define you.
I personally have a friend who is dating a women older than him. His reasoning behind is that one she is a lovely person and also since he has decided he doesn’t want children at all, some older woman have made that choice, and this woman had. Also he loved her confidence and when they first met he had no clue how old she was but just knew they had good chemistry and lots of laughs. And if you ask me, what more could you ask for in a relationship than someone with the same values as you and who you are connected to? Why should age stop you from giving a genuinely good person a chance?
Plus why are cougars judged differently than their male counterparts who do the same thing and date younger? If it makes you happy and is not illegal and you and your adult consenting partner are happy, I am happy for you. And from looking through many profiles on a few cougar dating sites and reading what many ‘cougars’ are searching for in life and love department, I literally can not judge because they are searching for the same thing any single female is looking for. It goes way beyond just feeling younger dating younger men. It’s about feeling wanted and cherished. So to the lovely older ladies that are finding love with younger partners and older partners, I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world. And know for one I will be one of those people who will not be mad at you for it.