As I am sure we are all aware, VH1 has yet a new reality show entitled Sorority Sisters which follows the lives of members of each of the four black Greek lettered sororities. Back in the summer, there were rumors of this show coming to the network at the end of the year, but there were petitions that I, and many others thought shut it down. Many were surprised when the news hit just a few days before the show’s series premiere that there was actually going to be a premiere. A number of people, especially the ladies that are members of these respected organizations are in uproar over the series premiere that aired this past Monday night on VH1. This show adds to the list of shows that depict women in a negative light and that is very disappointing. This show, along with many others proves that we as women must learn to have more respect for ourselves.
Let me start by saying that I am unaffiliated, but I decided to tune in for two reasons; the first reason being that I attend a historically black university where the Divine Nine is very prevalent on campus and I was curious to see how these women were going to act on the show. The second reason is quite frankly, I do watch some reality television and I was very curious to see how this show was going to be. However, I could not even make it through a full 30 minutes of the show. This was another show of women yelling at each other with no real message. The show is supposed to show the meaning of sisterhood within these organizations and all I saw was conflict. I am not writing this post to solely target this one show because there are many more like it. Shows such as Love & Hip Hop, Real Housewives, Mob Wives, Basketball Wives and more are shows with no real message just shows with conflict between women for entertainment. I am writing this to discuss how important your image is to not just other people but especially yourself. How you portray yourself plays a huge part in how other people will view you and treat you. You are the person that has to live with how you decide to carry yourself.
Think about it like this. All women want to find someone to call their own that loves and respects them, right? Why would a man respect you if you don’t respect yourself? One thing I find ironic on these shows is the fact that these women demand respect from other women, but do not respect themselves nor do they respect others. Keep in mind that I am using reality television and these shows as examples of how respect is becoming a taboo these days. The key to getting a partner that loves and respects you is loving and respecting yourself. Everything matters. The way you dress, the way you treat others, the way you treat yourself are all things that matter and men take into consideration when deciding if a woman is worth his time or not. Ladies, let’s try not to imitate the women on these shows. That will not help us in obtaining the man we want. Try not to use reality television as a paradigm for the woman we want to become. Learn to love yourself for who you are and I promise as soon as your learn to do that, others will love you for who you are too.
Photo 1 Courtesy of: Nicole Bitchie
Photo 2 Courtesy of: VH1