If you have been following Love & Hip Hop, you know there has been some serious drama going on. Throughout the season, there has been many altercations and shouting matches, most of which I have started to tune out once all of the beeps come on and I can no longer understand the argument. However, some of these issues on the show have sparked some interesting questions in my head, one of these questions being, is omitting the truth still a lie? You may wonder what on the show has made me think about this. Two of the cast members, Diamond and Cisco were “dating” if you could call it that, and it turns out that both of them were keeping big secrets from each other – secrets that caused major problems for the two.
Very early in the season, we were introduced to Diamond and Cisco, a “couple,” or at least a couple to Diamond. Diamond and Cisco had been messing around two years when Diamond followed Cisco to New York unexpectedly. She left her six year old daughter with her mother in Los Angeles. She kept her daughter a secret from Cisco and did not tell him until she was forced to by her mother. Cisco was upset of course, but he wound up having a secret himself – a newborn son that was born during their two years together. I was dumbfounded as I watched this situation play out. Yes, Diamond was wrong for keeping her daughter a secret, but Cisco was just as wrong. Now in situations like this, people often say something like “well, I technically didn’t lie!” However, omitting the truth can constitute as a lie as well because you were still not completely honest. Think about it. Telling your partner a lie is bad right? Why would knowing the entire truth about something and withholding it be any better? Your partner would feel just as upset if not more upset if you were hiding something and they found out. Then comes the problems of lack of trust and communication because you felt you could not be totally open with your partner.
The saying “ignorance is bliss” can potentially come into play here. If you’re familiar with the ‘Hypothetically’ by Lyfe Jennings, think of some of the lyrics in the chorus, “hypothetically, of course/ are there some things better left unsaid/or would you wanna know instead/hypothetically of course/ are there some wars not worth fighting/ some tears not worth crying.” This song discusses a series of “hypothetical” situations that could destroy a relationship if the other found out. Are there some things that are better left unsaid? It may appear that way because you don’t want something to come between you and your partner which is understandable. However, you expect to know the entire truth with everything your partner tells you, so you should grant the same respect. In any situation, especially relationships, honesty is truly the best policy. Withholding information that you know is important for your partner to know is equivalent to lying, and no one wants to be with someone who lies. You never know how your partner will react to something. In the event that you are faced with a similar situation, big or small, always tell the truth—the whole truth. It will set you free.
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