“As long as he has money, I’ll scream like he’s Casanova himself.”-aah words I’ve heard many women say (at least along those lines). I’ve met a few women in my lifetime who have stated they wouldn’t mind sleeping with or marrying a man that’s either significantly older or unattractive as long as he has money. They would spend his money to keep themselves looking good. This topic of discussion has always sparked my interest because it’s amazing the lengths people (women in this case) will go for money. Well that’s how I looked at it at first in only one way. From one point of view it can easily seem like it’s along the lines of being a gold digger, if you get me. But, if you step back and look at it from another perspective, it can be seen as security. If you look at it that way, a trophy wife doesn’t seem that bad.
Being a trophy wife consists of a little more than the average person may think it does. You may have to have a child just for liability, and then after you have the baby you must get your body back in shape to obtain your place. Then as time goes on you opt for plastic surgery to keep everything in tact. To add to the challenge you will most definitely not be the only wife. You have become apart of the circle of other wives. One may say keeping up appearances. A lot of things are involved with being a trophy wife and whether we want to realize it or not they do exist.
Looking at the security aspect does it seem that bad? As an example, there was a pretty young girl that grew up in a low-income community in a small apartment with her six other brothers and sisters. She only had her mother to raise them all and never knew her father. She helped her mother raise her siblings. She worked in a club when she turned eighteen because of the fast money. She met a man who treated her the way she imagined her father would, he was a bit older but she just saw it as wisdom. He has money and offered to give her a much better life than from which she came from. She saw a way out of her misery and her mothers struggle and took it; it was a happy ending for her and her family.
When looking at things from this point of view it makes some trophy wives look like survivors. They came this long way and ended up with a decent husband and perhaps they could truly love the man they are with that is significantly older than them. You never know. He was her hero, her savior, her light at the end of the tunnel. We all come from different backgrounds and have different stories. Trophy wives are women we look at on the arms of these wealthy men and think, how did she get that come up? Or it’s gotta be for the money instead of, how did they meet and I hope they are happy. They could be soul mates. Perhaps we should look at it from the man’s point of view. Maybe she’s the only one fascinated with his accomplishments or he really wanted to help her, or Oh My Gosh he really loves her! In the mist of this world and the struggles we encounter perhaps a come up as a trophy wife isn’t so bad. So the fact is they do exist and we should look at them differently.
-Written By Malaun Barkley