At the end of the day we date for one reason: validation. I’m sure you are thinking, no not me but actually, yes even you! Dating leads to titles, and from there the titles lead to engagements, which most often leads to marriage. This is otherwise known as, your original intention for dating.
Validation for a woman comes from dating a gentleman, a man who knows how to treat a woman with the respect she naturally deserves. When this gentleman calls you he initiates courtship activities like, taking you out to a nice restaurant for dinner, enjoying outdoor activities such as whitewater rafting and camping, and or, accompanying him and his friends for a night out on the town. You feel special, wanted, unique, different, as though you stand out from the crowd. That was all proven by the fact that out of all the women in the area, he chose you.
When you receive the title of girlfriend, someone he is in an exclusive relationship with, it is an affirmation of how valuable you are in the eyes of someone you also deem special. The dating process from here on out, presents an abundance of value affirming opportunities as the relationship develops further, and everything that you are doing as couple is leading up to you getting that precious, sparkling diamond.
Now imagine that when you are in this amazing relationship, your mate suddenly stops acting the way he did earlier on, with the daily phone calls and texts in between. Yet, because you “Know Your Meat”, you immediately recognize that something is off. Some of your attempted phone calls go unanswered, and when you do talk to your mate you rightfully question his behavior. The answers you are receiving are nowhere near what you were expecting, or even wanting to hear, and your need for validation is suddenly high!
As women, we need to know the who, what, where, and why; that’s how we were created; and by the 4th grade, we were formally taught to express ourselves in this manner through a five-paragraph essay! So Ladies, do Not for one moment think, you are delusional for seeking the truth.
The last step to the dating process is getting the final stamp of approval on your relationship, known as the engagement ring. With this bold declaration of devotion, your mate lets you know that no one else compares to you. You are different, special, and worthy of his love. It means dating him, was worth the effort.
We date for various reasons. But ultimately we learn what we can, and cannot tolerate in a relationship. No matter the specific reason, our end goal is to obtain validation, to affirm that the time spent cultivating this relationship was not in vain, in the form of a recognizable outcome. And most often, that outcome affirms that we are marriage material.