What is your number? Not your phone number. Or number of partners. But what is your no-number. What’s the number that if a potential partner said they had that name ex-wives or that many children and mother of said children would you stop and say no. With shows like Fix my Life, featuring a man with more children and mothers of his children, it makes you wonder, why when hearing about the number did a woman continue on a path with him. The thought always puzzled me. You can date someone who has children but personally for me if you have more than 3 to 4 mothers and more than 5 children I am going to have a lot of questions. Like for example, what is your stance on protected and premarital relations because something is obviously happening and I don’t want to be another statistic or notch. So what number if a partner said would you say no. Do you even ponder this while dating?
Another example of this is if someone told you they had 5 ex-wives. Would that be a red flag or would you keep going and see where it is heading hoping you’d be the last? And you would think this doesn’t happen. How can someone be married and divorced or split so many times. But trust me I have seen it first hand and it makes you wonder. Why not say no? Or are people not being honest with their numbers? I know studies have shown that sometimes we low ball our number when seeking potential partners when it comes to how many sexual relationships we have had. But the these two topics aren’t numbers to lie about. And you have to think about if you have a high number in the ex-spouse or children/producer of those children. You have to self evaluate why. What were you seeking? What makes you keep repeating a cycle like that. Because in both cases it leaves a trail of broken hearts, homes and people.
Dating is hard. But you have to have standards. And standards start with deciding what is your no number. Because usually there’s a pattern and you don’t want to be another caught in the fold. Now yes people can change. But usually after the number 5 and steadily climbing it’s more than less likely you’ll be number 6 and heart broken as they move to number 7 while your caring for child number 8.
And don’t judge, saying that how can people fall for this. People do if the Fix my Life episode wasn’t proof enough, their are examples in real life daily if you look. So just know you’re worth and know your number.