We live in a society where weaves, caked on makeup and tight revealing clothes is the norm. Being called “bad” is more appealing than being called “beautiful.” Quite frankly, it’s what men like and it’s what attracts them. Why though? It seems that on social media, there are tons of males that talk badly about women like this, but let’s be real; it’s what majority of them like. It’s a shame that weave is favored over natural hair, and a girl who wears flats is almost considered a toddler to women who rock sky high heels every day. Before I go into why this is overrated, let me just say I am not bashing women who love weave, or who love makeup. I love makeup and want to try a weave. I even wear heels on occasion. There is nothing wrong with that. What I am saying is that we do not need all of these things just to be considered “bad.” Being called beautiful is much more appealing, or at least should be.
With all of the reality shows and celebrities in our faces 24/7, they start to have an effect on us whether we realize or not. Constantly watching these shows with the women who wear butt length weaves and constantly wear super tight dresses can make us feel like we don’t measure up. We feel like we have to look a certain way to catch a man’s attention and we don’t. We see girls on Instagram that look like the typical “bad” female and we want to look like that too. This is sad but true. It contributes to the society we live in today.
Nowadays, being called “bad” or looking “bad” is what is favored and makes girls without weave or all the makeup feel like they are not good enough. I don’t know about you, but I would much rather a guy call me “beautiful” or “gorgeous” than bad. I feel like when a guy says those words, it is more meaningful than saying “oh, you’re bad.” Maybe that is just me. Like I said, I am not knocking girls who love weave or heels or any of that. Everyone likes what they like. But we have to stop relying on these things to look a certain way because we think that will get us the attention that we want. It won’t. We want a man to call us beautiful and appreciate that. Contrary to what you may think, there are men out there who appreciate women who are insecure when rocking their natural hair or their jeans and tee. My point is, we have to stop aiming for this title of “bad chick.” If a man can’t appreciate you for who you are, then that is on him. But trust me when I say, when a man can see the confidence you exude in being yourself, he will appreciate you that much more. All I am saying is there is nothing wrong with these things, but do not use them to build your confidence. Be secure in being yourself, and any man will love you for it.
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